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If we want to understand lies in a simpler way, from the perspective of the psychology of lying, I believe it is useful to divide them into two main categories. There are so-called “simple” lies, which often arise spontaneously and whose primary purpose is to reduce internal tension. In contrast, there are complex lies, which are often made up of multiple elements and are not only aimed at relieving a momentary discomfort, but at actively influencing and manipulating another

When a Coach Yells at a Child In sports and extracurricular activities, many parents eventually encounter this situation: a coach yelling at their child. While yelling is not ideal, through my work as a psychologist and conversations with parents, amateur, and professional athletes, it has become increasingly clear to me that it is important to distinguish between different types of yelling. I generally see three main types: technical yelling, threat-based yelling, and “dream

This blog is for you if you have ever experienced that shocking moment when your narcissistic partner suddenly says: “You are the narcissist!” Living with a narcissist often involves a great deal of drama and tension. Yet one of the strangest moments can be when the narcissist accuses you of being the narcissist. If you are already seeing a psychologist and have made some progress in your journey of self-awareness, or perhaps even received a diagnosis, then it may be easier t

Image: Netflix Official Bridgerton Facebook account Sophie’s strength lies not only in her silver gown, but also in her authenticity! Bridgerton Season 4 is not only about authenticity — it is also about transgenerational healing : that pivotal moment when someone steps out of repeating family patterns. In a previous article, I explored Daphne’s psychological transformation. Now I return to the story of Sophie Baek — the leading woman of Season 4 — whose decision impacts not

The Dance of Yin and Yang in Family Life In a fast-paced world, we often do not even notice that the rhythm of family life is no longer shaped by our relationships, but by speed itself. But what happens to us and to our children when constant movement is not balanced by space for slowing down? We can view family life as the continuous dance of two fundamental qualities. One is the active quality, yang . It is a curious, expansive, and dynamic energy, an outward-moving masculi

1. When Nature Wakes You Up A few nights ago, we woke up to an unbelievably loud noise. One of us thought a large airplane had landed right next to us. I, on the other hand, was convinced the air conditioner had somehow switched itself to maximum power — and with half-closed eyes, I kept trying to turn it off so the noise would stop. It took a few minutes before we all ended up in the living room, confused, and finally realized: it wasn’t a plane — and it wasn’t the AC either

After nine years of motherhood and eight years of co-sleeping, perhaps I have finally reached the point where my daughter is old enough for me to go away on a three-day trip, alone. A friend recommended a ticket to the 2025 Lisbon AI Web Summit at a very good price, scheduled for November 11. Looking back, all I can say is: she was right. Reports spoke of seventy thousand attendees and vast, flowing crowds. I hadn’t planned to travel at all, and yet the feeling was born withi

1. When “Average” Is Actually Much Worse When someone is asked how they feel in their relationship, the word “average” comes up surprisingly often. But as we slow down, speak softly, and start going deeper, it usually becomes clear that this “average” is far worse than it sounds. Someone rating their relationship as average might say something like: “I realized I don’t look forward to the moment they crawl into bed next to me.” Or another: “I feel this relationship no longe

Narcissism, much like introversion or extraversion, exists on a spectrum. On one end we find healthy narcissism: stable self-confidence, inner balance, and natural self-assertion. On the other end is pathological narcissism, marked by rigidity, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. I wrote about this earlier in the article titled “The Mysteries of Narcissism: How to Recognize Narcissistic Individuals| Part 1,” which you can read here: link. One of the reas

The Art of Closure: Many women can endure a relationship for decades, even when the life force within it has long faded. Not because they are weak — but because they’ve learned to carry pain quietly. This is not an uncommon story. It’s a deeply rooted feminine pattern. A woman’s relationship with pain is very different from that of a man’s. On a physical level, her body remembers that the greatest pain she ever endured — childbirth — was not an ending, but the beginning of so

It may be surprising, but it’s hard to recognize a narcissistic person in everyday life—even if we theoretically know all the signs. Why is that? Keep reading, and you’ll soon find out! Apart from the reasons I’ve mentioned in my previous blog (you can find that article on narcissism here), there’s another factor that makes recognising a narcissist especially difficult: they’re like hidden chameleons. Just as a chameleon takes on the shades of its surroundings, a narcissist c

Sometimes, maintaining balance as a single parent feels like walking on stilts in a parade. Everyone around you is smiling, the music is playing, the world is colorful and alive, and the parade moves forward — yet deep inside, you know: every single step is a small miracle, another gifted moment when you still haven’t lost your balance. Every movement carries awareness. Every breath carries responsibility. Because you know: stability is hard when you’re standing on one leg. T

Image: Netflix / Bridgerton official Instagram — used for educational and analytical purposes only. In the three-season Bridgerton series, Daphne Bridgerton is one of the most complex characters. So, let’s take a look at what both the “charmed” viewer and you, dear reader, can learn from her! Stories about love move us because they hold up a mirror — they remind us of our own possibilities.In Bridgerton , Daphne Bridgerton is not just a young woman navigating the glittering

Image: Barnaby Boulton, used for educational and analytical purposes The Bridgerton series on Netflix - now four seasons in - quickly became a global phenomenon. And while the show is full of memorable characters, Daphne Bridgerton stands out. From a psychological perspective, she’s especially compelling because of her layered personality. Dear reader, let us take a closer look at what her journey might reveal! Opposing Forces: What are the forces that add different qualit

Why Don’t I Notice It in Time? Three Hidden Obstacles to Recognising Narcissism 1. Why Is It So Complicated to Understand Narcissism? Most books about narcissism move between two extremes: • they are either academic texts in which it’s easy to get lost, • or novel-like stories that are entertaining but offer little guidance for navigating life with a narcissistic person. The traits of a narcissistic person only become truly understandable through conscious analysis and real-l

I recently attended a live talk by astronomer István Szapudi, from the University of Hawaiʻi’s Institute for Astronomy, who suggested something extraordinary: the universe itself may be spiraling — and that this motion could explain its constant expansion. This insight carried me back four years, to the quiet days of the Covid era, when meditation was my daily practice and when I experienced an out-of-body journey (OBE). One morning, as I drifted from sleep, I felt something

Although it’s uncommon for spiders to share the same web, I often describe family dynamics through this image: a web, where each spider represents a family member. In most families, a well-established structure emerges: each family member is tied into a fixed position – connected by countless strands that symbolize the invisible bonds between them. In this interconnected system, every moment, however small, ripples through the structure – showing how deeply connected and inte

When Your Relationship Feels Stuck: a Gentle Pause Might Help If you feel like your relationship is struggling… don’t panic. Many couples reach this point — and usually, this is exactly the moment when people freeze. As human beings, we crave stability, and fear of change often keeps us in the same cycle. The dynamic of the relationship then remain as it is: stuck. If you find yourself in a similar situation, here’s some good news: you don’t have to break up or walk away from

If you’ve found yourself in an unexpected situation that feels out of this world — then this short reflection is for you. Have you ever felt a sense of fear or frustration when thinking about your own life circumstances, especially when comparing them to what would be considered “normal” (or the expected average based on the bell curve)? In moments like these, thoughts may arise such as: “I’m atypical,” or even “I must have done something wrong to end up in this situation.”